Things that we will probably all experience at some point in our lives, maybe some more than others. I know in my last post I talked about being free to love, and how our Father in heaven is more than able to supply our sense of want and love in our lives so we can generously live to love others. What I am trying to say that this is an extension of my last post. Today July the Sixth was Frida Kahlo’s birthday. Frida was planning on studying medicine when a horrible bus crash nearly ended her life. Besides the normal bruising and bashing of an accident, one of the bus poles had impaled her all the way through.
A Life marked by a thread of pain.
Lots of pain.
She was never the same. But this pain propelled her to paint, and she became a world renown Mexican painter who was not afraid to speak her mind. Another result of the accident she had suffered was a miscarriage, and the inability to carry a pregnancy to full term…which lead to a needed abortion. Although many stories would portray her as a tormented soul; I don’t believe she let her pain fully define her life, because of what she said next:
Nothing is worth more than laughter. It is strength to laugh and to abandon oneself, to be light. Tragedy is the most ridiculous thing. -Frida Kahlo
I would not be writing this post without her painful accident, and the world would not have known who Frida Kahlo was. In the midst of her pain, she found laughter and life. In my mind Hazel Grace is another character from the movie The Fault In Our Stars who chose to not let pain, and hurt to swallow her life up. Loving someone who possibly might have a terminal illness, as Hazel Grace too suffered from the consequences of cancer.
Hazel Grace knew that loving someone would bring hurt.
Hazel Grace knew that someone loving her would hurt. However, at the end of the movie Hazel Grace said something that stayed with me:
You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world…but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices.
Because I am starting to understand that God the Father is the ultimate giver of love in my life, and he has dispensed it generously to me so that I can give it to others, I know I will encounter hurt…but it’s a choice. However, Love is powerful! Even when I get “hurt” by someone…
Love holds no record of wrong!
Love has mercy!
When we start letting “life” dictate our path, emotions, and thoughts; it will feel like hell. Thank you Jesus that in the midst of pain, he has anointed us with an oil of gladness, and a garment of praise instead of a faint spirit to rise above and keep walking. I want to choose that instead of letting life eat my lunch…
so I will choose.
I will leave a C.S. Lewis quote now, because he is awesome:
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable. –The Four Loves
*I so love Frida Kahlo and her unibrow portraits haha I had a chance to see her house in Mexico City, which was awesome! (even though I got in trouble for wearing a hat inside her house lol).*
**I usually shy away from sad movies, but I totally recommend The Fault In Our Stars, and instead of using humor to deflect the sadness I was feeling during the movie, I decided to let the pain sit in my chest, which made me feel alive…and even more alive after I was done crying (yikes haha). But seriously…go see it.**
***I was a bit quote happy in this post, sorry! Here is one more quote for the road. Love me! 🙂 “If you stand, worship, and love God in the midst of lack and difficulty, you will never lose. Jesus always win. Even when we die for Him, He wins. And in that, we win too.” -Heidi Baker ***